September 10, 2005
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crap, just lost an entry to the ethers…
that hasn’t happened to me in years.I’ve decided to be celibate by choice.
I can’t say fodon’s decision hasn’t sparked these thoughts. and it’s highly appreciated.
I’ve been celebate before, around age 21, and it really worked well for me.
too much of my energy has dissapated looking for a fulfilling
relationship, sexual or otherwise. I need to channel that
(considerable) sexual energy into something more currently
necessary. I need to center myself and it’s been much harder
lately when I feel like I’m all over the place and standing on uneven
ground.I suppose it’s a bit like giving up cheeseburgers when you’re stranded
with a tiger on a small boat (see Life of Pi). but if you’re
spending so much of your focus thinking about cheeseburgers when you
need to contend with a tiger that wants to eat you… well,
that’s probably a mistake.
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and this is worth a gander:
“go fuck yourself, Mr. Cheney!”
I saw that “Go Fuck Yourself” bit on the news, and was really surprised that the guy was polite enough to use the word “Mr.”…I wouldn’t have been.
I did a celebacy thing for a total of three years at one point…probably the most productive time in my life. And at the end of it, when I felt okay enough to have sex…DAYUM(!) those were some powerful orgasms. *snickers at fond rememberances*
-M
Making a decision to go with the flow…
Celebacy? What is this strange thing?
Seriously, I like sex too much. I’m glad that I’ve got a long term partner that is ready and willing to keep up with me, otherwise i’d have to move to vegas and make money off it.
“I must not fear. Fear is the mindkiller. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past me I will turn to see fear’s path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” ~Frank Herbert, Dune
“Fear is the mindkiller” has been going through my head all week…odd that you mention it.
Celibacy is the worst form of self-abuse. Peter de Vries.
As to marriage or celibacy, let a man choose what he will, he is sure to repent. Socrates.
I look forward to the repetence.
As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which he will, he is sure to repent.
- Socrates
well, you know how i feel about the whole thing.
And you were getting more action than you wanted to admit: But see that’s the thing, really. I mean when you try soo hard for something that ends up not being that fullfilling because of all the emotional garbage. And people talk about these fabled/once in a life time relationships where you can have lots of guilt free and emotional free sex. Real life ain’t that simple. Just like it ain’t that simple to find the perfect love-relationship either. And if you’re not really looking for love–what’s the point of playing the ‘sex-game’, as I like to refer to it?
I realize I”m preaching to the choir, but maybe it’ll make sense to people who don’t get it. But I think some people just don’t want to get it.
and by the way, things got interesting after you left. Should’ve stayed for a bit. Don’t worry–you didn’t ‘miss’ anything. I didn’t get home until late but, thank god, no one followed me and I didn’t party with them after…but I still have some things to tell you…
oh do tell!! ::evilly rubs hands together::
celibacy is a myth damn it.
there are no dwarves.
no snow white.
no prince charming.
and definitely no-fucking-a-celibacy!
Virtually every male is celibate against their will at some point in their life. Depending on how much you enjoy computers, this period of celibacy can last for decades.
I think it’s a good idea to be celibate for a while. Sexual deprivation drives people a little crazy, and that craziness can be channelled into worthwhile pursuits.
Now that you’ve made the decision though: expect a parade of firemen, cute tv repairmen and rich male models to come knocking on your door
Wow! Good luck with that.
i was honestly surprised by the reaction that fodork got when she talked about this, like it was a joke, or some throw-away thing you do for like, two weeks, just to sound interesting (like being bi on spring break, or vegetarianism, baha.) how we express our sexuality is a hugely fundamental piece of who we are, and often, i think, what we need is not a choice we make. (how we act on it is, of course, but the urges themselves come from somewhere else, i suspect.) nobody would fault you for getting laid eight times a week, but not getting laid at all, well, that’s just weird, and obviously you can’t be serious.
i’m glad you were able to isolate what you need to do for yourself, and i hope this time is as productive as you need it to be. (so long as it doesn’t interfere with your talking dirty to me. because that, i cannot abide.)
Love this. I tried to do this over the winter, decide to stay celibate for the next year so that I can focus.
Didn’t know there were others out there who saw it as a good idea!
I love the cowboy boots.