June 13, 2006
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Don’t Do Me Like That
My mother and I had “words” last night, but I felt like I was very high-minded about it. Let’s see, I’ll just write down what I said: (insert swelling music here…) (complete with choreography)
“You don’t own me, I’m not just one of your many toys
You don’t own me, don’t say I can’t go with other boysAnd don’t tell me what to do
And don’t tell me what to say
And please, when I go out with you
Don’t put me on display, ’causeYou don’t own me, don’t try to change me in any way
You don’t own me, don’t tie me down ’cause I’d never stayOh, I don’t tell you what to say
I don’t tell you what to do
So just let me be myself
That’s all I ask of youI’m young and I love to be young
I’m free and I love to be free
To live my life the way I want
To say and do whatever I pleaseA-a-a-nd don’t tell me what to do
Oh-h-h-h don’t tell me what to say
And please, when I go out with you
Don’t put me on displayI don’t tell you what to say
Oh-h-h-h don’t tell you what to do
So just let me be myself
That’s all I ask of youI’m young and I love to be young
I’m free and I love to be free
To live my life the way I want!
To say and do whatever I please…”Well, you know, obviously it’s not VERBATIM.
So anyway, that’s all I have to say ABOUT THAT. ***************************
I don’t remember who said this to me when I was a child but it had a profound effect: Only boring people get bored. I remember thinking long and hard about it and deciding that I was never going to be bored, which was just as well because being bored at my house meant getting sent to pull weeds or paint the dining room woodwork.
I guess what this means to me is that I consider it a corallary of “No one makes you feel anything; it’s all you.” No matter what I’m feeling at any given moment I’m entirely free to change it to my satisfaction. Certainly there are times when you need to feel negative emotions and I don’t shirk my intuitions nor do I run away from my anger or sadness. Sometimes those are things you just need to feel, to process. However, I don’t see where boredom has any purpose other than a redirect, a “this isn’t working for me I need to try something else.” At the very least I can think. I can think about the situation that’s boring me and figure out how to change it, or I can recall moments that ARE compelling and let my mind wander happily.
This is just one of the major side benefits of being an Evil Megalomaniac. Well that, and having the mind of a gerbil…
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Comments (22)
Way to stick up for yourself. I don’t know about you, but tense interactions with my mom leave me feeling uneasy. I like the two phrases you shared here, so I guess if I feel uneasy it’s something I can change, too.
I so love that song. Sorry you had words, but it sounds like the words you gave were the right ones, even if the ones you received were not.
gah, i must be the most boring person in the world, then. (i’m sure kim will be along shortly to concur…) taking care of yourself, though, finding answers for your own stuff, and not waiting around for the world to do it for you, that’s huge.
yep, rache couldn’t entertain a box full of bees.
yuh, the whole BORED-RACHE-BEES thing just has too many possibilities to narrow down. the mind reels…
ryc rmc: spoon, yes. anything else? I wish.
I hated that “Only boring people get bored” phrase ever since I first heard it in childhood. Because I’m always bored. Bastards.
People who make up ass phrases are ass.
I do my best to never be bored. it happens sometimes, so I guess that means I’m only boring occasionally. that’s better than rache, bored and frustrated is her natural state. she pretty much sucks.
~laughing~ (in light of what I just posted at my place, minutes ago)
uh, my comment above isn’t gonna make any sense now since I posted ANOTHER blog since then — the post I was referring to was the (now) ~previous~ one, where I cry in my corn flakes about being ~bored~
My sister used to tell me these things whenever I was little and said “i’m bored”.
Um, maybe instead, whenever i said “i’m bored” when I was little.
Whatever.
I think I may know what you had words over, but not sure. I hope you’re okay.
Also, so did you cut your hair or what, woman!?
I cut my hay-er! I look like Maude Lebowski!
clever post.
Maude Lebowski was hot.
And also, ryc about the lyrics… makes me sad too. I must be in the mood to be sad.
i’m very much in agreement on:
“No one makes you feel anything; it’s all you.”
thanks!
ryc: I thought of you when I was writing that blog. I wondered if you’d comment
The reason so many people are fat is that they eat to stave off boredom. I’m just finishing off a little something myself
For some reason, this made me think of Mary Catherine Gallagher (SuperStar!) using a monologue from Sybil to confess – - “My thoughts are best described …”
I was giggling, but …
Well. Yeah. I’m sure YOU understand, because ya got me.
The Saturn Glyph comment? Go check out my brief post before bed time. YA GOT ME!!!
okay,s o now that you look like Maude–do you have a silly fake accent as well?
You should photograph for the rest of us.
Same vein, though of a slightly different tone, I like the idea that I’m in control of how I react to something. I choose how I’m gonna react/not react to any given person or circumstance…
I like the idea, that doesn’t mean I always follow it.
Hope you’re enjoying your new hair!
-M
exactly….I have a similar quote…’Nobody makes you feel a crackhead except yourself’ …and of course, crack makes you feel like a crack head too.
I think you mean…~Ho ride, take ‘er sleazy~
Drive all Night… gives me goosebumps, makes the hair on the back of my neck stand-up… just goes right in there doesn’t it?