March 15, 2007
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trauma
I was in my sweats in a filthy house this morning when cps came to my door.
there was a report filed cos BabyJane had a bruise on her face… a bruise I have never seen. I still can’t see it.
anyhow, I’ve been very upset all day even though I seemed to have satisfied his interest and he said he was closing it.I went to the school basically to make my presence known and quietly assert that I am not the kind of mama that smacks her kid in the eye. I dressed up. I did well and everyone assured me that they truly believed I was a good mother… it was just that Jane had told three different stories then wouldn’t discuss it. she IS six, I reminded them. I cried, the daycare director cried. she told me how aweful she felt about what she’d put me through (her words). I got two hugs, one from her and one from the school counselor. the counselor and the principal both told me how they’d had unfounded cps visits as well.
I know it’s all better now but honestly I still feel traumatized.
I know it’s not a big deal; there are way worse things that can happen…
Comments (25)
holy shitballs dude. that fucking blows, it’s a total mindfuck and will take time to get over.
besides everyone knows you smack them where clothes will hide the bruises. duh!
ugh that sounds like a terrible thing to go thru
I find it absolutely AMAZING a call was made to CPS over a bruise.
A single bruise.
Here in Spokane, a child just died after MONTHS of abuse, actually it was more like torture, and no one said a word.
I suppose there’s something to be said for the quality of teachers and counselors she is surrounded by. They cared enough about her to worry and make that call…that’s a very good thing.
Still, I would be traumatized as well. Mortified actually, because I’d be in my sweats in a messy house, too. Here’s a virtual hug from me too, because hell yeah, you need it.
it’s utterly and completely a big deal, and you have every right to freak the fuck out for as long as you need to be.
damn. never mind that someone maybe thought that you maybe hit yo baby, but how awful it feels to think that ANYONE would hit yo baby. ungood.
good vibes from Michigan, mama.
Damn, how traumatic
Glad both you and Baby-Jane are ok and that the CPS recognised it for what it was 
it IS a big deal, and scary and horrible. my sister-in-law called CPS on my husband and his first wife. his SISTER called them! because she didn’t think the girl was ready for potty training. So of course they MUST pay that visit, because what if they didn’t and…
and Yeah, I was thinking what AB said. there are so many kids that neeeed someone to call on them, and they never do. it seems ridiculous that you’d get one. hmph.
thanks for the support guys; it’s really appreciated. I am from an area not too far from AB and I think that when a huge oversight like that happens there’s a backlash effect where there’s over-reporting in its wake.
I’m not saying what happened is okay (for god’s sake, use some common sense required-reporting people!) but it’s better than finding out that something bad DID happen to one of my kids.
fuck… i’m sorry. that is scary, invasive and horrible…
I’m sorry, man…don’t minimize it, that fucking sucks. I mean I’m glad it got cleared up but definitely tramautic.
This had to be horribly traumatic! I am so sorry this happened to you and your family.
And you know what? It is a big deal. To you. That is all that matters. Much love.
I was thinking the same thing… the all-to-often cases where there was an actual problem, and cps had *already been involved* but they dropped the ball anyway. hang tough, you know it sucks bigtime to have that scrutiny turned your way, even if it was a misdirected overcorrection.
are you still working as a liason for CPS? cuz you should’ve just said, look man, i work for you people. obviously i beat my children, or why else would i need a convenient cover story like that?
then you could’ve gone to jail and relaxed for five or six years. silly rabbit.
tee hee hee…
although I have to say, the kids are being SOOO GOOOD since mommy lost her shit and wept all day. I feel better today, MUCH better.
Wait till the kids start calling CPS just for fun like my brother used to do. some children should be beaten.
That fucking sucks. That’s all I can say.
I wish i were there. Um not that would make things better. But,I wish I could help in some way, You know. like give you more fish or something.
yeah, you’d just call fps on me cos I’m not cleaning the tank enough!
I called them months ago. They haven’t come yet? Lazy FPS bastards.
Yeah. What Rache said.
Me, I would’ve not “quietly asserted” myself. And promptly made things worse. Glad it worked out ok for you.
“what? the makeup wore off?”
seriously. glad the crying helped. glad the kids are being the gooooooooooood.
kids tend to forget we are people and think we are bridges to GETTING and HAVING.
yeah, and again glad you are feeling better.
I’m sorry, that is a horrifying experience. *hug*
OMHFG! This takes me back to my Neffie-Poo and the months and months I called CPS about bruises and neglect. And those fucking SOBs did NOTHING! His school “knew something was wrong” but never reported it. The goddamn social worker NEVER checked up on him…OMHFG!
You poor thing. This just goes back to my assumption that CPS hassles the good parents and leaves the shitballs alone.
((((((((((HUGS!))))))))))
-M
I don’t think I could trust the system again after that crap. {{{hugs}}}
Ugh, what a horrible thing! I know they’ve gotta take each report seriously, but how much does that suck for you and every other good parent out there that cops the flak from this sort of shit?
Hope the kids are still being extra good, and hope you’re feeling better soon…
xoxo
Sherri