January 27, 2004
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sting is still wonderful.
I could construct a soundtrack to my life almost entirely of police/sting songs. of course there was that early time in my life where we’d have to include the jackson 5 and earth wind and fire.
anyway.
I spent the day, yesterday, with my mother, grading, yakking.
in a social issues paper, somebody quoted one of my old boyfriends…turns out he ended up IN CHARGE of juvy, instead of IN it. who’d ‘a thunk. apparently he told the student he used to date the teacher’s daughter.
I met up with one of my high school friends who now teaches with my mom. her husband is my son’s music teacher (and also used to be a friend of mine).
formerprincess took me in yesterday morning when I had nowhere to go. did I tell you she brought me two dozen doughnuts and a dozen peach/red roses the other day?? well, she did. she’s wunnerful wunnerful.
I drove around this morning, looking at inexpensive houses. my mom may need to sell the condo I’m in. it’s not a need thing; it’s a tax thing. I need to decide if I want to buy this place or buy something else.
I could move back into the neighborhood we used to live in, but in the cheap seats (I’m fine with that). we used to live in the chi-chi part of subdivision. honestly, I wouldn’t want to live in the swanky part again, mainly because the lots are too big and I can’t maintain a half acre of lawn. the water here is BIG bucks expensive, and I don’t want to spend my saturdays mowing.
there’s also a REALLY cute older cottage near the school, but it’s on a fairly busy arterial (hard to back out of the driveway, hard to resell), AND it has baseboard heat. dammit. that also means it has ineffecient airconditioning and that’s really important here in the highdesert.
SO, I could stay where I am. BUT, I have three kids and this does only have two bedrooms. I’m fine with that, but will the kids be, long term?
there’s no bus here at the condo, so I’d always have to drive the kids (there’s bus in the old neighborhood). BUT, there’s a pool and a tennis court, and it’s right across the street from the golf course…and I wouldn’t have to maintain the property.
dammit. I can’t see a compelling reason to go either way. it’s a toss up.
Comments (23)
I am glad you have options.
I’m so happy to hear about formerprincess. She’s a good friend. That’s so very sweet of her. I’m sure you deserve it, but my mind doesn’t run along those lines and I’d never, ever think to do something like that. I suck. On the other hand I’d probably give you reason to eat all the doughnuts in one sitting.
There is such a thing as inexpensive housing? You’re not thinking of moving to a third world country are you? Wait a bit and there will be a compelling reason. A door will open.
inexpensive is relative
… thanks for the advice, it makes gobs of sense.
(dude – you didn’t tell everyone I was still in my pj’s and the kids were hairy and unwashed and unfed when you stoppe by: thanks).
pssst: Ethan wants you go buy the lot next door and build a house.
grrr… don’t get me started on feeding precious water and pumping chemical crap into poodle lawns. suburban lawns are a pox. mine is quite muttly, and I’m proud of it. (I just love it when eco-goodness and my inherent laziness converge)
James is smart.
indeed, suburban lawns are a pox. I know because I was once sent to weed ours. thank goodness no one cares in my house anymore.
good luck with your decision. james is right, one reason will eventually make one situation rise over the other.
Eveybody already said anmything I wanted to, so I’ll just give you a ((((((hug))))))
-M
I think we’re going to buy a house. there are ones we can afford, and ones we can’t… feh. I don’t want to think about it, I just want it to be there, all done, with my name on it, ya know? I guess I should be exicted but the whole idea just makes me tired. well everything is making me tired since I got home.
I missed you and I’m happy to have your voice in my head again. (wow that’s kind of creepy, ha)
Yeah, that’s a tough call. And I think James is right, too . . . ultimately, one option will make more sense than the other. And you know what’s worse than baseboard heat? Having two baseboard heat systems, one actual, working one, and another defunct, space-taking one. If I felt like I actually had money to throw around, I might actually change a lot about this place. For now, though, I’ll just occupy the shell along with my junk.
And let me just say that your timing is impecable, for greeting me with the words “police” and “sting.” At the moment, I’d prefer earth, wind, and fire
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It hurts my head to think of buying property.
It’s terrific that you have such a good friend as fp. Always makes thing easier when everything else is in the can.
yes, options are a good thing
yeppers go w/ the wise James.. something will pop up
i love the police and sting has such wonderful music.. you know he lives in a real castle????!!!!
I HAD TO SHARE THIS WITH YOU HAVE YOU SEE THIS BLOG… THEY MENTION THE POLICE, AMONG OTHERS………..
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=soybeansam
you forgot the third choice, move in with me!
xoxo
I love the Police. My fave songs to listen to over and over again are King of Pain and Message in a Bottle.
Thank you for the b-day wishes!!
Question – what do you teach and what grades?
If the night turned cold and the stars looked down
And you hug yourself on the cold cold ground
You wake the morning in a stranger’s coat
No one would you see
You ask yourself, who’s watched for me
My only friend, who could it be
It’s hard to say it
I hate to say it, but it’s probably formerprincess
But our thoughts kept returning
To something the boy said…
Yeah. In the meantime, you’ve got donuts, roses & nine different kinds of love Lara girl…the answer will present itself in due course.
All my heart…and what’s left in the coin return,
Timothy
You could buy my flat in London (I’ve had to put it up for sale
) and have a total change!
You won’t be a mum for ever, you will want to go out and leave the kids while you DATE and HAVE FUN. Consider where you live in relation to that as well.
love, Petra
fp – if you think kids get hairy at that age – just wait a few more years…
Yes, wait, if you can. Easy to say, hard to do, I know.
Sometimes life sucks.
Two more thoughts to consider as well, the advantages to home ownership is that your money actually gets you something permanent, and you’ve got a bit more space. The advantages to renting is that if it breaks, someone else has to come up with the money to fix it.
you’ll know what’s right when the time comes. i think periods of unsettledness tend to make us feel like we have to decide everything right! now! when that’s not always the case. go easy on yourself, doll. you get enough crap from everyone else.
As usual, James makes a whole lot o’ sense!